Jenny and NOPlady,
I am thoroughly enjoying your discourse today.

Jenny I loved the three little pigs analogy. That is me all over. My R would be a lot prettier if I just chilled out some, and acted more like a lady. He would have the chance to feel that he satisfies me and that he is a manly man.
I am well aware that I rob him of this feeling but what can I do? To be anything other than what I am is insincere and prohibitive to intimacy.

Oh and MrsNOP, Jenny may have you beat in the analogy department but you can turn a phrase like nobody's business.

I'm still trying to think of a way to use "sexual flotilla" in my everyday conversation. You know me...I will find a way to work it in.