Yes I have read PM,SSM, and Resurrecting sex. These are excellent. H has read nothing. The place I find myself is where you are - in perpetual vigilance mode. It is exhausting. Frankly, I am beginning to think that I have little effect on H's libido - whether I dress well or not, whether I exercise or not, whether I am pregnant, breastfeeding or whatever... His libido has a gatekeeper - it is HIM. He filters all experiences through the lense of - "Is it the right time, place, circumstances etc...to have sex? If so, ok lets go. If not, I will just squelch those thoughts and go on with my day."
If you had to distill it down to just a couple of things what would you say has made the greatest difference in your SR? HP - I notice in your posts that you seem to have the most success when you speak your mind AND maintain yourself as the fun, sexy gal that it sounds like you are. When you (or any of us) get into that depressed, helpless, diminished mode and then try to have the talk or initiate then it just goes downhill. Yet maintaining the PMA gets exhausting. Perhaps we need "pinch hitters" - pun intended.
