In my case, I think that while he is surprised that I'm not bringing up or iniating sex, it's just fine with him, maybe even preferable.
I think that what our actions show clearly, is that we are willing to care about each other and be part of each others' day to day life, platonically. Once I thought it through, that's okay with me. I am not willing to take on the pointless task of trying to make him or this R something he/it is not. It IS a dealbreaker in terms of a LTCR but right now it's fine.
Obviously, this would be quite different if we were married. I hate having deal breakers crop up once you are married.
