Quote: While I bow my head before JJ's analogy prowess, our relationships can be compared to two people in a row boat. Both of you *have* to be rowing. When you look up and notice that you've been by this bush before, then it's a pretty good indication that your spouse ain't rowing with you.
So true. I think I've just been confused because many things have improved in our relationship. It's like I've been rowing around the same old island again the past couple monthes, but it's summer instead of winter, so the landmarks are less obvious and the trip is more pleasant. For instance, instead of avoiding touching me in bed in order to avoid sex, my H might make a point of tucking me into bed next to him and giving me a non-sexy kiss and an "I love you". He has done an excellent job of turning himself into a dream husband for an LD woman, but he just isn't willing(able) to be loving in the way I most prefer.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
