Not all that long ago I had one of those "I'm just can't do this anymore" moments...only I said "I can't do this" in the middle of trying to initiate sex...when he was acting goofey about the whole ordeal and I was having to work just too damned hard.
That was the first time I have ever put the breaks on sex in our R...it really threw him for a loop when I said that...got up and started putting on my robe. I think I really threw him off balance by doing what I did...granted I was fed up, but I didn't lose my temper...everything I did was very calm.
This actually led to a very productive conversation. I guess it's because he probably knows me well enough to know that if I put the breaks on during sex that something was really bothering me...he'd better listen up.
Thinking about it...the majority of our really productive conversations have come from me doing something that has thrown him off balance. Hmmmmm....I wonder if there's something to that. My gut reaction is to say of course there's something to it...I did something that was very different for me to do...I changed my behavior, I didn't just go through with it anyway and have what would have been very unfullfilling sex.
