Quote: So MrsNOP, I totally hear ya. But I have to believe that it is far easier to get a woman to cooperate in matters of relational repair than it is some of these stubborn jackass men.
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I think it is even more basic than that. I think NOPkins was HD enough to get the relationship over the "hump" that I can't get over in my relationship. I'm not HD enough to deal with my H showing up with no sign of arousal for scheduled sex and based on recent experience, I know that is what would happen. It's like he hands his performance anxiety over to me and now I'm the one responsible for "getting it up and keeping it up". I don't know if it's deeply ingrained sexism or actual biology, but this just doesn't work for me. I don't want to have sex with a man who just shows up in a passive, agreeable mode. It's like having sex with no foreplay. I have to skip one whole phase(experiencing male desire for me) that would usually build my level of arousal. It's like most women get their food served at the table, but I have to go to the kitchen and fix my own plate.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
