Hairy, didn't you mean an ASSplosion, as in getting his chewed. ha ha.
No I'm fine, really. I am having brief moments today of feeling indignant but overall this is going to be a good day.
I do see him trotting down old paths...I've been happy and loving towards him, so he backs off and pats himself on the back for a job well done. I need him to realize that this is MY version of acting as if. When he makes love to me when he doesn't really feel like it, that is his version. When I act as if I am ok with his lack of desire, that is mine.
Last night, he was doing the dishes. I told him at least 5 times to stop and that I would do them myself. He continued on and came in to sit with me (I had just finished nursing baby, which is why I couldn't help him, and had then picked up a library book) and had a huge grin on his face. I thanked him for doing the dishes, he kissed me and said, Hey what can I say...I'm an acts of service man! I looked at him and said, H. You're supposed to do things in MY love language, not your own!
Here he is, feeling pleased as punch with himself..thinking he is being the world's greatest husband and I could care less if the dishes are done. I appreciate the help, don't get me wrong, but it didn't make me feel loved and cherished. So he began giving me pecks and snuggles and that eased the WTF moment considerably.
This guy is really smart. The fact that he keeps 'talking' to me in his own language and STILL not getting it really boggles the mind!
But, again, I'm in a fairly good place today. But I do feel like bashing the LDH's.
