Men who do not like to be told what to do, or controlled. That's why Journey's husband had to throw that stupid remark in..just so he can re-establish the pecking order, so to speak. And I mean that in the kindest way. He probably was not even aware of what he was doing but it is his way of saying 'I am my own man'. My own H does this as well.
It is a really strange thing to be married to a LDH. I mean, in most aspects he's all guy. In the sexual R, he wants to be the girl. This causes all kinds of problems. He wants to assert his masculine power (I will ML when I want to and will go along with the schedule for the time being) all the while getting (too) in touch with his feminine side saying, I just don't have that much desire and I don't know why.
It is mind boggling and mind maddening! Sometimes I just want to holler, If you want to act like a man, then be a man all the time, not just when it suits you! It is hard for me to remember that he is not doing this gender-reversal thing only when it serves his purpose and that this is really how he is.
So MrsNOP, I totally hear ya. But I have to believe that it is far easier to get a woman to cooperate in matters of relational repair than it is some of these stubborn jackass men.
