I think until our spouses are 100 percent on board with improving the marriage, there will be moments like this where we have to go back to PM mode and reassert our wants and needs in a firm,no nonsense, no wiggle room way.
BTW, I have gotten the piece of meat comment too, LOL.
My sitch is similar to yours...we have made major changes and our sex life is better now than it has been in 10 yrs but I don't have the peace of mind to relax. And good reason, too. While we have met or "beat" our schedule since it started ( even haing a few really passionate moments), H just said to me, "You know, J, we aren't going to be doing this schedule thing forever." That really blew the wind out of my sails and I could picture the HD men on this board saying wtf is his problem.
WTF is his problem?
All I can say is that he still has mixed feelings about the marriage, still has performance concerns, is still a difficult personality, etc, etc. The difference now is that I feel more self confident in what I want and have seen signs of his willingness to make things better so I feel less defeated.
Anyway...glad you came here to vent ( we like being pieces of meat here).
