Quote: The way you tell whether you are speaking her LL, is by her feeling more loved... NOT by her jumping your bones. You don't do her LL in order to have sex. You do her LL in order to show her that you love her. for example, acts of service = her feeling loved by you. You might secretly hope that when she feels loved by you, she will then love you and want to show her love to you by jumping your bones, but that's not the basic concept.
Yes, I know that she won't be jumping my bones. My problem is that when I do speak other love languages, since there is no physical contact between us, it can be real hard to notice any change in her wheich would tell me if I am getting close to the right love language. Now the big problem I have with all of this work I have to go through is that I am to bust my butt to meet all of her needs, but then don't expect anything in return. Now my love tank is completely empty and the ONLY way she has to contribute to my love tank is to start speaking ONLY in physical touch, that is my Love Langauge. Why is it that when a marriage has problems, only the LD'S issues are worked on first? The HD is expected to make ALL the effort and then MAYBE, magically, sometime in the future, the issues of the HD will actually be addressed. Sorry if I sound so bitter, I am just getting so darn frustrated.
