Your W is just like mine with the same low desire for physical contact. Flooding her with physical Love Languages just seems to make matters worse. My W is also a teacher and as you know, when teachers get together they just cannot stop talking shop no matter what else is going on. I always used to joke about it and so she avoided talking to me about her job. Recently her school had an excellent appraisal and she was absolutely thrilled about it. She gave me the report to read and instead of just glancing through it I read it carefully and read the best bits aloud. She was positively basking in the glory. I now make a point of asking her about her day and enjoy her telling me about it. What she appears to need is recognition for all the hard work she does. It's words of affirmation I suppose but not of the "ILY" kind which just bounce off. What she needs to hear is that she is a valued member of the family and community and I suspect your W is the same. Take an interest in what she does and she may take more interest in you. However... Here's an example of just how difficult it is for non-physical people to communicate in our touchy feely love language. A couple of evenings ago I was in the kitchen tapping on my computer and my W came in and started bouncing up and down, thrashing her arms around and making strange noises. I asked her "Whatever are you doing" and she replied "You haven't given me a cuddle yet" so I beckoned her over and gave her a nice cuddle. She just could not bring herself to actually come to me spontaneously and put her arms around me. SD
