My wife is completely focused on the kids. I have seen numerous women with new families at work that do nothing but talk about their kids. Do they still have husbands? Thier is no better way to destroy a marriage then to focus on the children! I know that in my own family, my only real purpose is to be handiman, chauffer, the breadwinner, and mentor to the kids. I get USED by my family, partcularly the wife. Lovers? yea, right!!