I agree with you, #1 should be God, #2 spouse, and #3 is the family. THe problem is that many if not most women, at least the ones I deal with, tend to put the children first. My wife makes no bones about this. The problem is that children are around for only 20 years, while you have to deal with your spouse for 50+ years. It is no wonder that couples divorce when the children leave home, there is no connection, mostly because of the HD/LD problem. My goal is to be lovers, and that is not my wifes goal, mainly because she has no idea how to ever become that intense. We are in the old catch-22, she needs the emotional connection to be sexual, I need the sexual connection to have the emotional connection. The only problem with this situation is I can try to meet the emotional connection, but her sexual connection never results.
