Yes, I realize that for many years I have expressed my love to her in my love language. I now know from reading the "5 love languages" that I have been wrong. The problem is that I do not know what her love language really is. I am guessing that I do speak her love language at times, but she is so assexual, she still does not respond in a way that I would notice. She has already told me she just has no desire for sex. What I guess she wants is a rich, ambitious guy who is LD like herself, and would accept her as LD. Life for her is about doing things, it is NOT about being lovers.
As for focus on her, I probably don't do enough of this. I don't spend enough time meeting her needs. However, if we asked her, she might say that I am to dependant upon her becuase I need sex and affection from her. The problem is that for ND women, ANY need for sex or affection can look to be "needy". That is the bad thing about a relationship with a LD women, they have absolutely no dependancy upon their men, their needs can be met by ANYONE. But the HD man is COMPLETELY DEPENDANT upon the woman since his primary need is sex. And it is not like I am pushing her, we have sex about once every 2 months, we never hug, we never kiss (it probably has been 3 years), and we never cuddle. I guess she wants a rich, romantic, PARTNER, who dislikes sex like she does.
