Something you just said struck a chorde with me. In the 2nd or 3rd C session my H and I had our C asked how I felt...I told her unimportant. My H looked and me somewhat puzzled...so she asked me why do you feel unimportant? I told her because as far as his priorities go I know I'm not one of the top 3...in fact I don't feel I'm one of the top 10. She asked me to name off what I felt came before me...so I did. When I was finished my H looked so hurt, he really didn't understand I felt that way until it was literally spelled out for him.
Now, I know people have kept telling you that you have got to talk to your wife and be honest with her...have you really told her you feel this way? That you think you're somewhere around 30th on her list of priorities? Because that's not how it should be.
It doesn't upset me that I'm not 1st on my H's list, in fact I don't think I should be...I believe our S should be, then I should be next. Now perhaps I think it should be this way because that's how my priorities stand as far as he's concerned...I don't really know. What I do know though is this...You most definitely should be in the top 2-3 priorities.
If you still haven't had a long serious/honest talk about what you've been posting...you must do this. These problems will not go away without both of you addressing them...and to do that you will both have to be honest with each other.
I'm not slamming you here...so I hope you don't take it this way...but you mentioned that you obviously aren't speaking her LL either...I wonder where she feels she sits on your list of priorities (not where you have her as a priority, but where she feels she's at as a priority). See my H always assumed I knew I was a priority...he never told me that, never said anything that would make me feel that way...and I certainly didn't feel that way by his actions. He was completely shocked when he found this info out.
I guess what I'm saying here is my LD just simply thought I knew where I stood with him because it should have been assumed...maybe your W also assumes you know that you are a priority (even if she doesn't act that way).
Also, I still maintain that she's putting all the other extraneous crap (business) in the way of really addressing problems....you may have to call her on it and let her know that it's a cop-out to dealing with the obvious issues between you.
