I have been thinking a lot here lately about what is necessary to making a great marriage. I have always made my wife the focus of my life (In my mind). She may not agree, obviously I have not been connecting with her love language. But what I also see is that she does NOT make me the primary focus of her life. She admits the children are the most important things in her life. She puts me about 30th on her list of important things. She is always about being busy, she loves to be busy. She wants ME to be busy as well. It's like she thinks that happiness comes from all these other things, we should NOT look towards each other for happiness.
Is this a common trait, that HD's focus on their spouse and LD's focus on other things? Am I wrong to focus on my spouse? Does this make me "needy" in her eyes? Is it possible to have a great marriage and NOT put our spouses at the top of the list?
