Try one of your suggestions and report back. I could easily just ask my wife as I go to bed, "Hey, come up with me so I can f#ck you silly". I have no doubt she would come up to do it. She does try to meet my "Need". She would make some sounds on the way up that would indicate displeasure, she would put in enough effort to orgasam, she would do the minimum to get me off, but she would NEVER act like she truly WANTED to be there. More likely she is thinking, "I have now done my monthly duty. Now he will leave me alone".
Some women just want to skip the pussy footing around, just go for it. Of course, this means it gets over sooner too!
