You're onto something here Atl! I'm like you. I like a long slow build up of flirting but my W is just the opposite. I have noticed that on Fridays (just do it night) she gets a bit distant and wants to spend time on her own and if I try to flirt or suggest anything she looks disgusted and I feel I'm putting my chances at risk. Last week I left her alone all evening right up until I slid in bed beside her then straight away put my hand between her knees and eased her legs apart. From her positive response I knew I had found her secret. She needs time on her own to prepare herself and deal with her personal demons then once she is ready she does not want any fussy pillow talk, kissing or lengthy massage. She has to get straight to the action leaving no time for doubts to creep in. It is now obvious to me why we went for so many years with no sex life because me pussy footing around and flirting with her just turns her off. SD
