Southern Cooking

[NotATLDave]

When I was in Dallas last summer, I wrote a list of key-behaviors that would indicate that my W was successfully becoming a better sex partner. One of the items on the list had to do with her inability to have sex outside the bedroom in our house and her huge aversion to getting physical at either one of our parent's houses. Here's the thread... Working on Desire Thread

So we just returned from Texas last week where we stayed at my moms. After a night of margaritas (rocks, no salt), I was tucking her into her bed (yes...separate beds), and I disclosed "my" feeling to her by saying "I know that this environment makes it hard for you to get in the mood and I'm completely OK with that, and heck, I've even noticed a drop in my libido since we arrived. But while laying here with you, I must confess that I would love to f*ck your brains out right now." Her response..."sounds good if you can make it quick". So we had ourselves a nice quickie.

With all my travel lately to California and Texas, we weren't able to visit our C but despite that, things seem to be going very well. I'm much calmer and my W seems to be more positive about ML more frequently even though she needs the arousal before the desire still. i.e. the cooking is pretty good these days and she's at least somewhat enthusiastic about it, so I'm not really finding much to complain about. I just think maintaining consistency is key.

On a more interesting note, we discussed the need to return to the C today. She felt like she didn't have any issues to discuss. I still have some legacy/family issues that are causing some troubles in my head and trickling into the R. I also have some sexual preferences (nothing too far out) that I've been trying to get enough nerve up to disclose and I finally did today. ( Note: this saved us probably $300 in C fees. It's funny, but the thought of spending more money on the C inspired me to disclose this. The fact that our C only takes cash has made both of us work extra hard). W said "you don't need to be nervous about telling me things like that, those aren't my preferences but it's fine that it's yours". I think my anxiety was over self-judgement more than her judgment and that's a part of my issues with my self-worth, mother, childhood, etc.

Anyway, I just thought I'd pop in to give an update. Take care folks.