I've done and continue to do all of your first paragraph.
I admit my PMA isn't the best. I could be better at being "cheery" on the phone. I don't get many opportunities to joke or laugh with H, though. I'll really try to do that next time he throws me a "bone" but he only calls about "house selling" stuff and it's very hard to be cheery about losing my home. Ya' know? Thanks though.
H does seem the most disturbed when I am very happy or tell him I have to go because "I'm busy." I'll KOFTGF!
