Can I forgive my W for what has occured? Y Can I forgive myself for my role in the decline of our M? Y What is my limit? Good Question
I have told her that I forgive all that has and may be happening, her response was "I don't want you to forgive, I just want you to understand" I told her I do understand and have left it like that.
I do love her unconditionally and she knows that, i have proven that and stand by that everyday. Even when she does things that cause me great pain with words and actions and anger inside I simply remember why I have stood by her side faithfully and loyally, simply put I love my Wife, don't like the sitch but I do love her.
I have never thought I would expand my boundries out so far and make tolerable adjustments the way I have.
But I do have to stop pushing them out so far and take a stand.
I have said to myself that the next time I find out that she has gone out with another guy I'll just tell her "with those actions it is pretty clear where we stand, how can I justify staying married if this is going to occur?" I simply have tolerated this long enough".
If I continue to tolerate this then it is like giving her a license to continue this behaviour w/o consequences.
I feel I have sacrificed enough and it is time to take a stand and either fight her or fight for her, I choose to fight for her.
