Hm, that's still more room to work in than I have (I got none actually). I would say that if she wants to keep the options open and if one of the options is to be with you then you need to be able to have equal oportunity in it. You need to be informed and make educated decision if her option is yours as well. Say that if she chose the option that includes you then there will be much better chance to have it work if you were not doubting her and assuming things that might be worse than actually occured. Take it from there and let us know what happened.
