I learned about myself that I was taking my H 's love for granted and not taking his needs into consideration because I did not know his love language - I thought of what he was saying as wants not needs.
I learned that to continue to receive love you have to continue to give love in all ways - not just one that you feel most comfortable with.
I learned that I do have short tempter that might be charming at first but gets old and bitter the longer you let it go.
I learned that I truly do love my H despite of occasional thoughts (prior to the D day) that I might have just settled on him.
I learned that forgiveness which I'm striving to achieve will not only help me with what's going on now but also what will need to happen later. I love my H and even if/when we D I hope to still have him in my life and not hurt that it's not in the capacity that I want to.
I learned that having friends and family that supports you is equally important as having H that loves you because when that love is tried they might be all you have left. On the other hand, I learned that friends and family try to act in YOUR best interest and not best interest of your M so it's important to keep their comments and attitudes towards your H in mind but not act on them.
