I have had to face the fact that I contributed to the environment which led to the EA. This is why I am trying to be the best person possible, to rediscover that which my spouse first found attractive.
I totally agree, how many of us have sat down and looked at ourselves, and determined what did we do or didnt do that may have contributed to our marital problems?
Since reading DR I have determined the following about myself:
1. I managed to make the last 6 years of my life be about my husband and being a stay at home mom, (that is why I chose PAM IS LOST).
2. I realized that once I lost myself, I became insecure, which led to controlling behavior.
3. I realized that I could definately use work on my listening skills, rather than trying to always get my point of view across, and always thinking that my way was right.
Whether my H and I get back together or not, I will definately be a better person because I realized my mistakes, and am now working on not being this way again in my future.
What has everyone else found out about themselves?
