My H freaks out every time he SEES me go out (not so much when he is out himself and I'm out at the same time - he knows it) but it makes no difference in how he is viewing the future of our M - he still wants the D and he still has no hope for us, the OW is his hope for happiness etc - I know not to believe anything he says (does it include good things too?) and believe only half of what he does (does it include good things too? ) but it's frustrating.

I'm going to get the book Jon_M talked about because my PMA is non existing since I found out how much involvement he put into the R with OW.