Honeypot?

[NOPkins]

Jenny wrote:
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I guess what I'm trying to say is that you and Mrs.NOP have what you want and I am very happy for you (really!), but I might not want what you want and I might not be able to get what I want in the way you got what you want. I need to muddle through on my own. I hope that is okay even if what I have to say isn't always in the spirit of this board.
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I completely understand your being leery of a one-size-fits-all solution. I would be as well. Believe it or not, I am not trying to shove that kind of solution at you. However, by the fact that we are all humans here (at least I think so), there are most certainly variations on a common theme. We all want to be 'special' unfortunately, we aren't.

As an outside observer that has read most if not all of what you have written, I 'see' some things about your relationship that you might not. I am sure you can do the same with mine. This is what 'drives' me to try and help.

My experiences are wide and varied. Since many of them were not positive, I have tried to salvage what good I could from them, mostly in the form of wisdom. I try to pass that on if it appears pertinent. I am not trying to come across as some kind of moral gauge, nor do I want to be a moral relativist. I simply try to point out what I have learned from my experiences.

I appreciate how important your idea of sex is to you. I certainly don't want to, nor do I have any intent to encroach upon it. What I have been trying to say to you is that I think that you are going to have to modify it *somewhat* in order to get to a good place with your husband.

The very last thing I want to do is to hurt anyone in an effort to help.

I will leave you to muddle, and I sincerely wish you and your husband all the best in your efforts.

-NOPkins-