I think probably HD personalities may be similar. When arguing they go for the jugular (spelling?). Maybe not screaming but with incredible intensity and piercing words. ha ha That strength of character is what makes HD who they are. Srong people and strong sex drives. I read in several places that usually strong leaders and people in power have very strong sex drives. They better have some understanding and loving spouses.
I thought I would express my feelings so you could see the possibility of how your H might feel sexually having been given the label of LD. I do prefer more the lower drive in the relationship. So my H is a 10 and I am an 8. That is not...blah, blah. Yes, we are made to feel like we are very unsexy (as I say this with tears). It kind of sucks any feelings of sexiness right out of you. Oh, we are unsexy plenty of times. Granted. But we could be sexy a lot more times if we were constantly reminded of how much we don't want sex. Even after having it!
I've decided not to be defined by a title or even by how my H sees me. His perception is true to him, ok he can have it. But his perception about me and how he describes me IS NOT ME!
I have been learning how to break out of that. I fail a lot but everyday I get up and start over.
Your H may not be there. I went by and believed what H said about me and how H saw me. We didn't have sex a lot for many reasons. I should have been more mature and handled it all differently. But it was not because I wasn't interested in him, as he firmly believes.
But the past is the past and I live everyday now as to who I am. I fail may times, but I get back up and live in the now.
Good for you that you apoligized for the negative things you said about him and that you are not being negative anymore. It will take some time living a different way for him to believe it. On all our part and in both directions.
