I could be misreading, but this sounded snarky to me. If that wasn't your intention, I apologize for the misreading. If it was your intention to poke a bit, why?
I'm sorry. That remark does read snarky outside of the context of what I was thinking. If you substitute "perform sexual acts not novel in their titillation" for "make love" and "the woman he's been married to for many years" for "you", the sentence might read more like I meant it.
Of course, in making this statement, I am making the assumption that my H loves me as much as NOPkins loves you and that you and I are both reasonably sexually attractive women. If this is so, IMO there are only two possible reasons why NOPkins wants to have sex with you more than my H wants to have sex with me. Either I am doing something "wrong" in my relationship or my H is LD and always will be no matter what I do.
Of course, it is possible that the "wrong" thing I am doing is just being HD me.
What do you think would happen if you were stranded on a desert island with my husband and I was stranded on a desert island with your husband with no hope of rescue? If the HD/LD phenomenon is purely psychological then eventually either NOPkins or I would become the LD partner and either my H or you would become the HD partner and we would have to work our way through the kinds of problems we're facing in our current marriages. If the HD/LD phenomenon is purely biological, then NOPkins and I would be fighting about whether it's Kama Sutra Elephant position #3 night or Professor and the School Girl night and my H and you would be fighting over whose turn it was to make the coconut cookies and rethatch the hut etc..
I have to admit, I am completely confused about this myself at this juncture. I really would be interested in your gut reaction to this scenario.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
