Karen, Describe your imaginary menu of choices. I can't even picture what you are thinking of...
When my H says he is tired, he is usually already asleep. So for me to offer him anything at that point would just make him mad. There are TONS of times that he wakes up on his own and notices the hot mama-san in bed with him and initiates and that's fine. If it is HIS idea to stir from his stupid stupor, that's fine.
Here is something for ya: If I could get to him before the stupor falls upon him, and initiate blatantly--which for him would involve my naked body touching his, me grabbing his youknowwhat, and perhaps some sexy talk, he would ML to me 80% of the time. Maybe even higher, I've just never tried it on a long term basis. I just cannot seem to keep him awake long enough to form any genuine interest in me and he is not fond of the "foreplay outside the bedroom" idea to keep him primed for the upcoming action.
You know, sex is in the mind, it really is. My H wants it to originate and reside in his body only, if that makes any sense. He doesn't want to think of sex, he voluntarily pushes sexy thoughts away and so at night all he can think about is sleep.
So tell me what you have in mind for his menu--I'm up for suggestions!
