I just want to say that I see the wisdom in what NOP is saying but I hate like h*ll that what is required is a long wade through the waters of tepid sex before a reasonable flow can be established.
CeMar - I get those short overnights after a series of monthly "talks" - takes about 4 to six consecutive ones to get one a month or three out from that. I try to "set the stage" at home as much as possible but home just feels like pressure to him. I think a schedule is the only way we can work through that particular problem.
HP - didn't mean to hijack but I thought the various purposes of a schedule are worth repeating. I know you are looking for some spontaneously motivated stuff from your H but I think it will require a bit more time.
