Quote: ----------- But don't feel bad. It's natural to view HD women as shrewish and demanding. -----------
I don't think you are that way. I do think that your husband does feel that way.
Quote: ----------- I suppose I could keep an "Acts of Kindness" journal to prove to myself that I am a caring person. -----------
I think that you are a caring person, otherwise you wouldn't be here.
I think that you will also find that a schedule will afford you more opportunities for experimentation in a situation that makes your hubby more comfortable.
Quote: -------- BTW. I love you NOP, but when you write about your youthful experiences spoiling "animal-like impassioned" sex for you, it reminds me of someone talking about how they can never drink whiskey again because of the time they found themselves face down in a ditch choking on their own vomit. Overindulgence in a pleasure does not necessarily make one an expert in that pleasure. I don't want to be a teetotaler or a drunk. I'm generally content with a just a glass of white wine after dinner, but every once in a while, when the moon is full, I like to get out the whiskey or tequila and howl like a wild thing. --------
My point is not my excesses, rather an attempt to point out the logical conclusion to following some fantasies. I claim no expertise as to anything here, only some experience.
I am sorry that my post was very negative for you, believe it or not, I was trying to encourage you to continue on past this hard time in your relationship. If you do continue, there will be others as well. Again, speaking from experience, not training.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
