I hear what you are saying about the desire piece. I can parade naked around my bedroom, hug my H, blah....blah... and if he isn't interested then NOTHING I do can get him there. Even if he does get interested I have to work very hard to make sure his interest continues. I honestly think that one of those times he is just doing it to try and please me I could stop mid-stream with him as hard as a rock and he could and would roll over and go to sleep. When he is interested then everything is wonderful. Between times the entire sexual part of his being can be totally unreachable. It not only turns me off sometimes but actually gives me a surreal feeling - difficult to describe. You do a wonderful job describing what you are looking for. I think the sexy e-mails (from his end)are a good start.
