I think the reality of life with a long term partner is just as you say - there is room for everything. There is the good, the fair, the bad, the mundane and once in a great while the trancendent. JJ described the trancendent. I don't believe nor even desire that at all times. I keep hoping for an active give and take, a mutuality that allows a good laugh when things don't go perfectly. I feel as if my H is not so much afraid that I want to swing from the chandaliers (I don't) but that I want to possess him rather than love him.
