NOP, I don't think that my husband will drop back to minimum mode. I truly believe those days are behind us and have communicated that to him, also. That is not my fear at all.
My fear is more: Will I be able to keep the love alive between us, considering the fact that my LL is Physical Touch (specifically sex) and I have a passive partner in this regard?
Is the fact that he will acquiesce and do whatever I ask of him enough?
I am laughing at your description of him being high drive. Nope. Not true.
I do agree with you, though, that his place in this relationship is not where I think it is. I can...sense...that there is more growth that he will do. I sense it of myself, as well.
Btw, I almost had him sold on the schedule thing...he SAID he was willing to try it but when the rubber hit the road he put the brakes on with this statement: "Schedules are made to be broken." That right there told me that he is not willing to commit to this process, so I dropped it with kindness and no histrionics at all. In fact, I have not mentioned it again. We've ML every day since, anyway. Every one of those times was accidental sex. He did not come to bed with the intention of ML to me. It did not sound good to him at all. But after I draped my naked body on him, he changed his mind. This MO might work for an HD male but I can tell you that it does not work, on a permanent basis, for an HD female. At some point, I will have to FEEL his desire for me and have the majority (not minority) of our encounters be intentional.
If this does not happen, I will probably fall out of love with him and our marriage will be in name only. This is what scares me.
