I can't imagine how a LD husband must feel? Don't you think it would really work on his ego? Feeling less than a man because his W complains and wants it more?
I know when I am complained about then I want sex even less because I feel less sexy. If when we have S then I am bragged about I feel more sexy. But if after sex, as has been the case a lot the comments are about why I don't want to have sex as much as he wants it then it completely deflates me sexually.
I'm just wondering for a LD guy, I mean they have to "get it up". I think it would be WAY easier for a LD wife to "just do it".
How could they get it up more frequently if they were continually reminded that they don't do it enough?
Rather than tell them what they do that is wonderful. Reward the good behaviors. LIke in children. Then you'll see them do more good behaviors. I'm not saying to not ask for what you want. DO. Just don't complain to them when they don't give it.
I have gotten this a lot. My self esteem, if derived from my H alone would be NOTHING.
Brag about what he does well. Skip the complaining. Kindly ask for what you want. Really. This simple formula if used on me as a LD W would work.
Really too bad that he doesn't want to check into some hormone help. But, don't you think that maybe his ego is just really effected? If it wasn't his ego and he felt OK, don't you think he'd get medical help if necessary?
