Karen, Yep it's 3 days for me too. This libido drop thing has allowed me to step back and SEE what he is doing and appreciate it for what it is. Before, my body was so horny and my mind was so flipped out (overanalyzing, my specialty;) that I couldn't see the forest for the trees. Suddenly everything appears clearer. It is a blessing and if I could stay like this forever, I would. Even though the other way is more fun, I feel more alive, I would still choose this path of least resistance.
We ML on Wed night and afterwards we had a conversation about how neither of us was really that horny to start out with, but it ended up well anyway! Normally this type of conversation would have really bothered me but it didn't this time, so I guess that is progress. One thing I have noticed is that, lately, H wants to eliminate foreplay. I don't know what to make of this! He SAYS it is to cut down on the time it takes. Well, it ends up taking the same amount of time because we have sex longer b/c I am not fully aroused when we start having intercourse, right. The more I think about it, though, I think this is his way of saying, "If you want sex, you'd better be ready for it, then. If you're so 'horny' then why do you need all this warmup time??" This dislike of foreplay is new to me. I never knew it bothered him until about a year ago. Now he is rewriting history and saying that it has always bothered him.
However, I don't know what prompted that tangent. I have been doing excellent at staying positive this whole week and I'm not stopping now!
