Glad I could entertain you kids with my toilet saga. Truly, if someone would have told me 6 yrs ago when I was a hotshot in the workforce that I would soon know the feeling of intimately cupping a turd in my hand, I would have screamed. The fact that it is my own child's turd really didn't make it any more pleasant. Hairy, sorry about the caffeinated nose, dude.
Yes, I handled that crisis, but I can tell you that if H had been at home I would have taken one look at the Sh*t Fountain and shrieked , ****!!!!!!!! Fix this!!!!!!!! To those of you who are wondering why a man would toss the plunger, he is a bit of a germ-phobe and couldn't stand the thought of using (and re-using) a plunger that definitely had yuck germs on it. Even though I rinse it with water and spray it with bleach water (like I do most things in this house, dang germy little kids), it just creeped him out. So he chucked it. He did show up that night with a brand new plunger (he didn't know I had already bought one) and a small present for me from the store, so he did redeem himself somewhat.
Corri, I was thinking more today on your words and I couldn't wrap my mind around the needy thing. In our daily lives, it is evident I need him. I ask him to fix things, I ask his opinion, etc. Yes I am competent and efficient and he knows that. But I can't seem to see how he would think that I don't need him. What I CAN say without a doubt is that he thinks that I am smarter than him, more successful than him, just 'better' at life in general than he is. This is not true. I am more assertive than he is and I will find a way to accomplish what I want, but the things I really want are few and far between.
He has said many times that he is "no good" at sex. That "he sucks" at initiation. etc. His confidence is low and, while I can't say for sure about the needy part, I do know that he feels he is not 'worthy' of me. I can't imagine truly believing that of your mate. How odd. Now, I'm not some pollyanna type who thinks He is my perfect equal. He's not! In some areas (childcare for one, lol) I blow him away, and in other areas I completely defer to him. When we first married, he definitely was in charge of the sex. Or at least, he was in charge of the initiation. We both handled the content with ease. He did it frequently enough that I never felt the urge to say or do anything that would belie how much it affected me and to what extent I'd go to protect it (it being the amount and quality of the sex). I have no doubt that he sees this whole thing as a competition. Or a test.
To tell ya the truth, I'm really not sure how to work WITH him, at this point. At times, I think that is what we are doing and other times, I think we pay good lipservice to it but end up setting each other up.
Things have been going well this week but I think I might have a bit of hormonal weirdness going on. My body feels very odd and not as physically horny as it usually does. In addition to that, I have some changes within my milk supply. I have to tell you that the difference of dealing with an SSM while physically horny and dealing with it with that edge taken off (I'd still love sex and am looking forward to it tonight, hopefully!) is night and day. When my body is raging, my mind tends to do the same. Since I don't take care of myself I tend to get frantic for him to pay attention to that fact and freakin resentful if he doesn't. After all, if he wants me to "refrain from sin" (as he put it) then he has to be willing to help me out. I don't know....it's a weird dynamic. He wants me to come to him, and has asked me to do so, but then oftentimes doens't want to participate. So I get a mixed message from him. You really think this is related to fear of losing me? I don't know...can't it just be something easy like he's fcuking lazy?? j/k
