There are a lot of positives in my marriage these days. The positives outnumber the negatives by about 100 to 1. My H is making a tremendous effort to be a sexy guy. He is forgetful and clueless but he does mean well. I need to keep this in mind.
As the day wears on, I am feeling very upbeat about things. I think I just needed to get a little LDH rant off my chest.
One good bit of info (I think maybe Barney referenced this the other day?) from the Gottman book was to say 5 positive things to your mate for every 1 negative thing you say. Most days I don't say anything negative at all to my mate but on one of "those" days, I more than make up for it.
Another random tidbit: I was reading on symptoms of low testosterone in older men and a couple of the items listed were restlessness, irritability and a greater risk for heart disease. This describes H's father to a tee. So I will press on for the T test even if he asserts that his sex drive is fine and normal. (which it quite possibly is and I am just insatiable, who knows) My gut feeling is that his hormones are fine but I want it checked nonetheless. Since we've been married, I've had this irrational fear about my H's health. I have no idea where this came from, I don't even worry about my kids' health in this way. So me badgering him to get the test will seem completely normal to him. He only goes to the doctor about once every 5 yrs.
Oh and Mike, he had to pull over last weekend while driving because he was so dizzy that he didn't feel safe driving. YEAH and the growing lump on his skull has nothing to do with that??
