I'm wondering if it's not that he's stuck on the way he sees things...assuming that his perspective should apply to you too. Which would go back to what you said of he see's you one way, but that's not how you really are.
I hate to keep using CeMar for examples....so if you read this Cemar...sorry. But it's like how he keeps saying things like...how he can't believe that touch couldn't be in someone's top 3 love languages and that it should be.
Well of course it should be one of the top 3 for her from his perspective, because it is one of the top 3 for him. Unfortunatley it's not that way for his W so he's he's either having a tough time grasping that as fact (if he's tried)...or he's simply completely unable to see things from her perspective...sometimes people really struggle with that.
That's kidn of what I'm working on with my H. In the past he's perceived me as he would have other women in his past...therefore he treated me accordingly. Now he's having to really learn who I am...it's a slow-going learning process, but he's learning.
That was clear in my mind...did it come across ok?
GEL
