Hi John,
I had a baby on October 3rd of this year and H and I are trying to get things back on track. I don't know if you remember but he loses his desire for me when I am pregnant. Prior to that, we were working at our R for about a year and a half, trying to get a sex life going again. We were at a pretty good spot, relatively speaking..having sex 4+ times per week, having The Talk about once a month, and basically working through the kinks. This past pregnancy seems to have set us back a fair bit. We are not even at the level that we were at before I got pg! This is disappointing to me. I expected, I suppose, that we would be at least where we WERE and I was foolishly hoping that we had made even more progress, intimacy-wise, throughout this year even if the frequency had died down.
Now we are working back to where we were and then I suppose we will keep on plugging.

I think my biggest issue now is trust. I want to trust him that he knows how important this is and that he won't let me down, but I am not quite there yet. So far, he has not earned that trust. He drops the ball big time if there is not the constant threat of my anger hanging over his head.

Positive changes in my life since you were here last:
I had a beautiful little girl!
H and I can talk even more freely and easily than we did then.
I am more honest about what I really want and have stopped trying to protect him.
H is much more affectionate in a sexy way. He is still awkward at times, but not ALL the time like he used to be.
I speak H's love language fluently and do so often. This time last year, I was still too resentful to even try.
And, finally, I am inching towards acceptance of my sexual life. There are LOTS of things that he has deemed off limits but the more time that passes the easier it is for me to live without them.
Oh, one more thing: We are in talks about starting up a sex schedule. I think I may enforce it this week. Ok, two more things : He is going to the doctors next week and I hope he will address getting a testosterone check then. We'll see.

So....in conclusion, some pluses, some minuses.

Above all, I want forward movement. Any signs of backslides is making me nutty. As long as we are moving forward (even painfully slowly), I'm fine.

Life goes on........

How's tricks with you?