I think HD is showing "resolve." I have little doubt that he will retain that nutty humor we all so appreciate here. The dreams were an overwhelming experience and now you are coming up with steps to deal with your sitch...wtg! Remember that with all resolutions, persistence will be the key...hope 2005 turns out to be a good yr for you...sounds like it will definitely be one of growth.
Lou...thanks for the info on the Boundaries book...I can't bring myself to read another self help book. One of the things I had to reconcile was the fact that my H could be so challenging, neglectful and hurtful, until I realized I did the same thing ( more in the past) and that it was up to me to take care of myself in this marriage.
