As someone said, everything in the dream is YOU. IMHO (and from my study) dreams contain encoded messages from you to you... the content of which is impossible to face consciously. By encoded, I mean encoded the way art is, the way a poem is: symbolically. Everything in the dream is a symbol of something that is YOU.
So my take is that your dream daughter's death ("ceasing to be") is your unconscious mind telling your conscious mind that she is "ceasing to be" enough to hold you together. In neither dream are you the agent of her death. She is simply in the path. This event (her ceasing to exist as a reason for you to stay together) is simply in the road where you will encounter it.
Dreams are very hard to interpret. If we could think these thoughts consciously, we wouldn't have to dream them.
BTW hd, I'm reading a beautiful book on Buddhism called "Radical Acceptance." Contrary to what the title sounds like, it's NOT about just putting up with crap no matter what. It's about self-acceptance and sticking with that through a thought process (meditation process, really) until we find what is at the root of our resistance and desire.
It's about self-acceptance and sticking with that through a thought process (meditation process, really) until we find what is at the root of our resistance and desire. 