Quote: Corri, thanks, for you have just pointed out to me that I'm tired of it to the point that I should just pay up the nose and toss him out. Thanks. Happy Holidays, now what should I tell daughter when she flys in for the Holidays?
I'm sorry if my words cut deep, but this comment actually gets right down to the brass tax of it. You are really, really pissed that your H isn't living up to your vision of marriage or what an H should be, you want him to change to fit your version (or at least get mildly close), because if you can't get him to change, then YOU have to make some very painful decisions... and you don't like how those painful decisions make you feel. So rather than face some very painful parts of yourself, you level both barrels at your H, which only drives him further away.
Now before you go getting pissed at me, we ALL DO THIS. It isn't just you. I have the best idea on the planet of how my H should be in MY marriage, and if he'd just ask me, if he'd just listen to me, everyone would be happy doing it MY way. I suppose I'll leave a little wiggle room in there for him to do things his way... as long as they don't affect me directly.
Now you tell me what is wrong with that picture.
And please, by all means, get pissed. Really let me have it, too. It feels good to get it out and off your chest. I'm serious as a heart attack. I'm a big girl, I can take it.
