Okay folks . . . first of all, although she is a divorce/family lawyer, she wasn't when we met. She was a professor. She probably represents about an equal number of husbands and wives. She'd be the first one to admit that some women are psycho, and some men are a-holes. She actually does a pretty good job of separating the work from our home life.
I really think that all the external arguments (men are evil, sex drive is evil, etc.), and the personal arguments (too tired, too itchy, stomach/head ache, and even the body image arguments), are just a smokescreen for the true problems, which lie in her fear of abandonment and fear of intimacy. Jeeze, if we can just slide by those problems, we're fine! Sigh.
