I think I should've started the whole thing with that and now I am afraid is too late for that talk. I will have phone consult tomorrow and will let the coach know about the different approaches offered and the ones I've been thinking of and see what he says. I know at this point that my H would not give me the 3 months - in his head he was fighting for the M for past 3.5 years (the whole time we've been married). I guess once I'm at the state of mind that I'll be okay with or without him I can do it, at this point I know I would be rejected and I can't deal with it. I still want this M to work.
Having said that I will print out your "talk" and use it when I feel ready. Thank you - although not at this time your post has been extremely helpful
