I need to take a deep breath here. I am definitelly taking into consideration all of you guys have been saying. I feel that he's been a realy good husband and I might not have been able to tell you that through posts because I was concentrating on the alien I live with now.
I am scared to death to say either OW or me (working on R) because he already told me that he wants out. But that's a sort of DUH thing! We wouldnt be here (well most of us) if our WAS wanted to work on M with all they got. A lot of us are here because we are THE ONLY ONES that want to save the marriage due to the fact that WAS are blinded by their emotions and can't think straight Then again mine might be a lost cause.
I will call phone coach and see what he/she tells me. Confronting OW is a bold move and that's my last resort, just as telling my H that he needs to end it to work on our R I know that I would lose the battle at this time.
