The OW has to go. You have to tell him that.

You got off to a good start when you said:
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I was also thinking about saying to him: I would really want to have sex/ML to you but I can't do it when you are involved with someone else. I desire you all the time and I would love to show you just how much but you have to be honest with me...


But then you said that that’s where you get lost. Let me help you out. How about following that with:

I know we’ve had problems. I know that I’ve been part of those problems. But I love you and I really do want to work this out. I just can’t do that when OW is still in the picture. If there’s any chance of resolving our problems, we both have to commit to the R. I’m willing to do that. Are you?

Wildebube