No my response really doesn't change. Especially in light of the fact that the EA is continuing and he's still hiding things from you...he's still putting it off on you when he's the culprit. He's justifying his behavior by using you as the scapegoat.
He can not reasonably or realistically expect you to put up with the OW and attempt to save your marriage.
Let me be reeeeallll blunt here k? SHE'S GOTTA GO! There is no room for negotiation here. He doesn't get to keep her in the wings while you "prove" to him that you will remain this way....that's a bunch of crap.
This man married you, he made the same vows you did...and that doesn't include a 3rd party.
