About two weeks ago, I did exactly this. I told him that I appreciated everything he did, but that he was missing out on what really spoke to me. Since then, I have repeated it in various ways, up to and including last nights "Please touch me..it is my LL, you know!" (we were laying in bed and I was touching him and my skin was craving his hands. He readily complied but rarely remembers to do it on his own.
I'm losing patience with this man o mine. You'd think that he was the village idiot, but he is an educated, intelligent and successful man. He gets an A+ in all areas except those involving my love language. In that, he gets an F--for fcuking stupid! LOLOLOL Hey, I gotta make myself laugh.........
