JL posted: How long until, when things do not go back to pretending like there's nothing wrong, does he start to resent me for not being appeased by his efforts? -------------------
Maybe this is just a "man" thing, and if it is, please forgive me, but I strongly advocate you telling him asap that you see all that he's doing and appreciate his effort, but he's putting his efforts into the wrong area. The longer you let him think he's doing all he needs to, the more opportunity for him to ignore the real issue and think that he just can't please you.
It's not your fault that he's shooting at the wrong target, no matter how good a shot he is.
And concerning procreational vs. recreational sex, babies aren't the only life a M needs. IOW, all sex is life producing for the HD. It breathes life into them and therefore, the M. I think that's why for so many here desire is as important as activity. It gives them life, comfort and significance.
